It is almost impossible to go through life without encountering challenges, problems and issues. During these moments it is normal to feel hopeless and even desperate and it is very easy to fall into the trap of negativity and self – complaint, especially if we were raised with the belief that, when confronted by problems, we have no control.
Of course, most of the time we cannot change the negative situation that is making us feeling powerless and that is causing us desperation, grief or anger, just to mention a few of the feelings that we could experience.
The good news is that, if it is true that we cannot change the problem, we can always choose the way we interpret the problem and the way we ACT (and not RE-ACT) in response to it.
The difference between act and re-act when confronted by a problem is crucial in order not to fall into the trap of hopelessness and other negative feelings.
If I RE-act it means that I am putting in place an automatic response that very likely is being brought forward by the way I was brought up or by my habits. However, these strategies may have become out of date or may not be necessarily functional in order to creatively solve the specific problem.
The benefits of putting new strategies in place, thought processes and behavior when confronted by a problem are numerous:
- Increased self-esteem
- Increased happiness and fulfillment
- Different reaction from people around us
Of course, the process of becoming able to act and not to re - act when confronted by problems takes time, self-awareness, curiosity, an open mind and a lot of patience!
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